Confidence

To new people I'm quite a shy person but I soon warm up to them. I just try and involve myself in the conversation and if I don't know what anybody is taking about then I say so because chances are there will be somebody else on the same page as me! If I'm with people I don't know then I normally don't talk to anybody but I have reaslised that that doesn't get me anywhere. So instead I introduce myself - "hi my name's Anna" then other people start introducing themselves too. To get the conversation going I'd probably compliment someone on their clothes/shoes/hair because then I can ask them questions about it and I might find out they have some interests the same as me.

If you just stand there in silence then people will ignore you. I mean there's no harm in introducing yourself and giving a few compliments. This gives you a massive chance to make new friends. It can make a real difference!

If you're afraid of complimenting someone because of what they might think then say this to yourself 'what is better than spreading kindness? If they don't like it then they're obviously not a very nice person anyway'. Everyone is always saying you should't care what others think, it's true in some sense, but it's easier said than done. It's hard to just block out what people think and say about you. My advice for that would be that you're a better than them because you would never say or think that about someone else so you're already a level above them. Being horrible isn't going to get you anywhere in life so just think you already have a better life than them! If anyone ever insults you to your face then just simply don't say anything, smile, and walk past. All they want is for you to be hurt and react to them - so do the complete opposite!

If you're not confident in being yourself around people then of course that's normal. At lot of people believe that if they are themselves people will find them weird. This is okay. Its more than okay! So what if you're weird or odd? I think its a key characteristic to show others you are confident because it makes you stand out more and proves you're cobfortable being yourself. Which also links in with my last paragraph. Being like this shows you don't care what others think of you, making you more confident!

I'm not sure if any of that actually helps because I am rubbish on giving advice haha. I just wanted to give it a try. If it did help then be sure to let me know and if you'd like advice on anything else!

All my love
Anna